Statistics show that people who make a new year’s resolution stop by the third week of January. Well, here we are…..so…..how many of you are in that category? Not eating healthy anymore, M.I.A. at the gym, not connecting to family/friends like you wanted, staying more positive or whatever else you created.
First, don’t feel guilty! There is still time to get back up, dust yourself off and start again. I’m not one to make a new year’s resolution but I do find habit changes kind of fascinating. Why are they so hard to break/change? Why can’t you just do it? How do they become so ingrained in us that we freak out a little inside when change does happen?
I read The Power of Less: The Fine Art of Limiting Yourself to the Essential…In Business and in Life by Leo Babauta. He talks about how if you want to make a habit change, you need to focus on one thing at a time for 30 days. Also, make it simple! Taking better care of yourself is way to broad. Narrow it in like, eat vegetables daily, write one positive thing about yourself, floss every day (don’t lie…you know you don’t do it every day, you do it 3 days before you are going to see the dentist). Do it for 30 days and move on to the next simple change. Also, give yourself a reward! I would want new shoes, of course, but it could be whatever makes you excited and want to succeed!
If you notice yourself slipping or that little voice is saying “forget about it!”, close your eyes, take a breath, and do it. You will be happy you did. It’s the small successes that build momentum.
How many of you have those friends you’ve had since childhood that you meet for drinks or get your families together for dinner? Or maybe college roommates you still chat with about the good old days. Then there is always that friend you have scheduled Facetime dates with, talk until 2 in the morning and laugh until your stomach hurts.
We need to remember how important friendships are in our lives. As you get older, the friendship circle gets smaller and smaller. I get it….life happens. You get married, start a demanding career, maybe move away, possibly start a family, whatever it might be, take time and nurture these treasured relationships, and not just a “happy birthday” on Facebook. Yes, you do have your family but there is something different about sharing your goals, frustrations, good times and bad with friends. I always find my friends to be less judgmental, sometimes more supportive of crazy dreams and give honest feedback.
This generation should really have no trouble staying connected. My college roommates and I have a group chat on WhatsApp and it is fabulous! We are all over the country but it’s like we are back at Bloomsburg University sitting on the couch watching TLC Wedding Story again. Using Facetime is like having my BFF in my living room with me.
I will admit…I do go old school style too and actually write a letter or call them (*GASP!). Sometimes I’ll send random gifts just because I saw something that I know they would love.
So take some time out of your busy life and reach out to a friend today. It will make you smile, laugh and warm your heart. Trust me, you won’t regret it!